Where to Meet the T-Girl of Your Dreams
Amazing as it sounds, your dream T-Girl could be anywhere. She could be in a chat room right this second, looking for someone like you, or she could be out shopping for a new dress, ready to go to the same nightclub you intend on going to later. The fact is, we never know where and how we will meet the person of our dreams. Every story is unique in its own way and even bumping into someone as they come out of the supermarket doors is not unheard of. The trick is to be prepared because you never know!
1. Online T-Girl Chat Rooms
Chat rooms are one place to start, but I should tell you that this comes with a safety warning. Not all chat rooms are genuine and not all the people in these chat rooms are who or what they might claim to be. Yes, cynical, I know, but it’s a fact of life that the anonymity of the Internet lends itself to unscrupulous and undesirable behaviors. Be cautious! Not all chat rooms are bad of course. You may have to try a few out to find the right one for you. They can attract T-Girls from every part of the planet and this gives you a wider option to find someone. Although, again, remember the warning: All that glitters isn’t gold. You might not want to travel too far to meet someone and as the internet is global you could end up falling for a T-Girl who is a few thousand miles away. When you find a chat room which has genuine T-Girls ready to have a good chat with you it can be a really fun experience. You can learn a lot just by sitting back and watching, and engaging the T-Girls in polite chat.
2. Nightclubs and Bars
T-Girl nightclubs are the most obvious and best place to head if you want to look for a T-Girl friend, date or girlfriend. Many smaller cities won’t have their own nightclub specifically geared toward T-Girls, but you might find a LGBT club where there is a whole selection of people from the ‘trans’ community gathering for a fun evening. In the larger cities, such as New York, San Francisco, Chicago and Seattle, you are more likely to find a larger community, owing to the sheer size of the area. The ‘trans’ population will naturally gravitate toward larger areas and there will be a huge list of clubs where you can start your search. Before you go to the club, remember to do some research, especially if you are a novice to the T-Girl community. First, make sure the club is in fact trans friendly. A phone call in advance will let you know. You’ll find virtually all staff at these clubs to be very friendly and forthcoming with information about their establishment. Next, find out if there are drag shows or special nights when T-Girls are more likely to come out. Before you head out, be sure you’ve read this guide and have learned enough to become engaged in a somewhat knowledgeable conversation with a T-Girl. There is a partial list of trans friendly nightclubs at www.ts4play.com. Call first. Trans friendly nightclubs come and go quickly and it is impossible to keep such a list current. If you strike out with this list just go to Google and look up gay nightclubs in your area. Most will have web sites that will give you a good idea if they are trans friendly or not. Otherwise you can just give them a call and ask.
3. Classified Ads for Escorts
A number of classified sites exist where T-Girl escorts advertise their services. If that’s your thing that’s fine, but be very careful. These sites may or may not be monitored for safety. Keep in mind that not all advertisements are genuine. When you look through the advertisements you must assess how ‘real’ they are before you answer them. Be aware that sex for money is illegal in most jurisdictions. If you’re looking for an escort you may be ok, but if you’re looking for sex you’re on shaky legal ground. Be careful because many escorts may possess very undesirable traits such as drug use, criminal activity and sexually transmitted diseases. Please use extreme caution when using escort services.
4. T-Girl Dating Sites
There are some T-Girl dating sites that specialize in romantic connections between T-Girls and admirers. Most offer confidential messaging so you can maintain your privacy until you feel comfortable revealing your e-mail address or whatever personal information you wish. They usually provide chat rooms where you can join in existing chat sessions to chat with T-Girls and admirers from all over the world. This is perhaps the best way to meet real T-Girls who want to meet you for the right reasons. It all depends what you want to find. If you’re looking for a real one-on-one romantic connection this is a great way to go.
Some of the dating sites are more geared toward sex hookups. Even if you’re looking for a friend with benefits – it’s a good way to go. I recommend that you join several TGirl dating sites, taking advantage of the free join offer. Take a look around at the TGirls in your area. Are there any that interest you? Does the site seem to have a lot of members within driving distance of your location? Bear in mind that you may have to search in a major metropolitan area for the best selection of T-Girls, but you might get lucky in any area. Give it a try and see what you find. Once you’ve found one or two T-Girl dating sites with good selections you will probably want to join so you can gain unlimited access to the dating profiles. These sites usually offer reasonably priced membership fees, with some discounts offered depending on the duration of your membership. If you compare the cost of a dating site membership to the cost of a one-night outing with an escort you’ll find it to be very inexpensive.
The earlier caution about escorts with undesirable behaviors bears repeating here. You will sometimes find escorts posing as legitimate advertisers in the personals. Some advertisers will be drug users, have criminal intent and can possibly have sexually transmitted diseases. There are also the scammers to beware of. Do I need to tell you to never, ever send money or gifts to someone you’ve just met online? Don’t let anyone take advantage of you! When you do find an advertisement you want to respond to, don’t just type something like ‘hot guy in your area, looking for a T-Girl.’ That will not get your reply noticed. You really do need to be genuine and compose a response that will get you noticed. Remember that if the T-Girl who placed the advert is getting hundreds of replies she is not going to trawl all the way through and notice you if you do not have something interesting to say. Most dating sites have more male members than female (or T-Girls in
this case) so you need to craft a letter that will get her interested enough to want to reply to you.
It’s a great idea to place your own personal advertisement and state what you are looking for. Be honest and true to the person you are. It cannot be stressed enough that good language and excellent grammar is a must. You will see that written on plenty of sites offering advice on this subject and it is a most true statement. Make a mental note
that T-Girls are generally intelligent and educated beings who can read and write and decipher the trash from the genuine. Your personal ad should state who you are, what you like and dislike, hobbies and interests, where you are located and should also include some up-to-date photographs of you in fun, relaxed and social situations. It is really important that you put photos of
yourself in various social situations. A good face shot is a must if you want replies. Do you ride a Harley? T-Girls will love to see you sitting on it looking all hot! We’ll imagine riding with you as we type away. If you are a little shy about showing your face on the Internet you can include some photos taken from a little distance away and then offer better photos at a later time. Remember to show me your personality! Photos of you enjoying your favorite pastimes are a great way to show your interesting side. Make sure you use proper grammar, spelling and punctuation. I realize the Internet is pretty casual regarding grammar, but this isn’t the place to get too sloppy. You want to appear intelligent and make a strong first impression through your words and photos. In the past, when I have looked through sites for a possible date, some of the language and grammar used in profiles has been so horrific that I have just simply hit the ‘back’ button and not even bothered with the rest of the ad. You won’t let that happen now, will you?
Don’t include your real name, phone number, e-mail address or any other personally identifying information in your personal ad. Wait until you have made contact with a TGirl who you find interesting and spend a little time getting to know each other. Once you feel comfortable you can exchange phone numbers and take it from there. My advice is to be confident, yet unassuming about yourself. It is a good idea to ask your friends how they would describe you, to give you a more objective view of yourself through the eyes of others. Your personal ad could include something like this: “Hi there and welcome! My name is Charlie. I’m a lover of outdoor pursuits. My friends call me the sky diving junkie and yeah, it’s risky but oh, what a rush when you fall out of
that plane! I have some photos of me doing my first jump, if you want to take a look (insert link to a photo.) My other interests are music and even though I have very eclectic taste I do love a good nightclub with deep beat music that I can feel. I love to socialize with my friends and we usually go out most Fridays to a LGBT club, where we have some great laughs.
Aside from that, I do have a romantic nature and I’m not above being all sweet and mushy. I know it’s not really a ‘guy’ thing to admit, but I have been known to well up at a tear-jerker movie! I enjoy exchanging little gifts to show how much I care about my lover. I would like to spend time with an intelligent T-Girl who can make me laugh. It would be lovely if I could meet the T-Girl of my dreams—yeah, bit of a cliché but it is what I would love! I don’t have any prejudices and I am not in the least bit worried about any social stigma because of my preference for T-Girls.
I love my work and I enjoy a challenge. I have had loads of jobs, which mostly paid for me to get through college. Once I graduated I got into computer graphics and I have been doing that ever since. I am 34 years old and I have an older brother of 36, who is my best friend. We often do outdoor pursuits together but he is a wuss when it comes to sky diving, ha ha! I also love swimming, hiking and camping (see the photos of me trying to light a camp fire in the wind!) As well as spending a romantic night indoors with a nice meal and some soft music. I won’t list all of my favorite movies because there are too many tomention but I do like a good cross section of all genres and I will sit and watch chick flicks with you!
If you find me interesting please contact me. You never know; we might be perfect for each other!” That’s about as genuine as I can get in terms what I would appreciate in a personal ad. Seeing the real you will make me more likely to respond to you and I will get a clear idea of the sort of guy you are. I want to be interested in you! I want to know what you are about and see the real you. Having a web page can show me your lighter side and your fun side, so go ahead and use humor as well as being a little serious about your intelligent side.
Here are some T-Girl Dating Sites that offer free trial memberships;
5. Social Networking Sites
Create your own social networking profiles! Well, why not? Social networking is a great form of self promotion and if you have the right set up with the attitude you can gain some serious interest from the right T-Girls. It’s a great way to meet people and you can show people your fun side, and your true nature. Describe yourself as accurately as you can and don’t be false. Make your profile page unique, catchy and interesting. When you set the layout of your profile page, do it in a professional and clear fashion so that it is easy to read, fun to look at and simple to navigate. I have seen some profile pages that look as though they were put together by a six year old and they really do not give me a good impression!
If your web page just says ‘cute hot guy looking for tranny girl” you are not going to get many responses and you are very unlikely to get a T-Girlfriend from that. Photos are a must on profile pages also, and as with personal ads, don’t include your real name, phone number, e-mail address or any other personally identifying information on your profile page. Once you feel comfortable you can exchange phone numbers and take it from there. In short, it’s all about being truthful, interesting, funny and engaging. T-Girls like me prefer that in a guy!
Here are some social networking sites where you may meet T-Girls
www.urnotalone.com (Specifically for the trans community)